Dating during alcohol recovery
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I got through it with help from here, but it was the first time in a long time I felt like drinking for some reason.
Just because you're sober doesn't mean a relative won't pass away in the first year or that you won't lose your job in the first year. Jay- I didn't date in my first year, I needed some time to work on myself.
Men who stop using drugs or alcohol but have not yet addressed their underlying psychological issues and emotional challenges often transfer their chemical addiction into the sexual or romantic arena.
Many such men search obsessively, usually online or using smartphone apps, for sexual partners, regardless of whether they are in an existing relationship.
Of course life still goes on, you may suffer from unexpected events and tragedies and have to deal with them.
But dating is an event that you choose for yourself, not one forced on you like losing a job, death/illness of a loved one, etc.
Someone's gotta be the first to say it, so I guess it might as well be me: AA doesn't have a rule about dating.
Not dating within the first year is mentioned nowhere in the big book. Keep in mind that most recovering alcoholics are pretty messed up emotionally in early recovery, so whoever you are dating is getting a real an of worms. As a matter of common sense, I would counsel most any alcoholic to not pursue romatic relationships for at least year.Now you sound like the majority of those I have worked with, still 'wanting to rebel in some way' lol and will end up doing what you want to do, lol Think about it some more please.Give yourself a break, concentrate on your recovery, then see if you are ready to 'date.' J M H O Love and hugs, __________________ God Bless You All As You Trudge The Road Of Happy Destiny (especially when you are trudgin thru alligators up to your butt) Sobriety: AA June 7, 1981 Codependency: Alanon June 7, 1984 I will agree...You apparently don't know this, but AA has No Rules. The big book actually advocates having a well rounded life.You can't possibly know ALL of the suggestions as they are only another person's opinions. All this "rule" means is that you need some time to figure yourself out (the new, sober you) before you take on the added challenge of a new relationship.Why would you want to make things harder for yourself deliberately?