Help my daughter is dating a sociopath
Help my daughter is dating a sociopath
But, I’m still not use to it and it worries me every time. Im very upset but Im trying really hard to work on myself and confidence and self esteem I hadnt relised how men and women think so differently and Im 60 Regards xlizx My guy has been incognito for a little over two weeks now. So last time i heard from him was a non response to my messages.
He responded a day after thanking me for the simple gift I gave him. Then yesterday, I shoot him a message on facebook asking for a certain schedule of an event.So a shoddy treatment of me from someone who claims to love me is not on. I am dealing with rejection, emotional abuse and co-dependancy. Totally not looking for anyone he walked up to me and I thought hey he’s cute let’s give it a go.And if he ever does come sashaying back, i will let him know how i felt and he can stay only if he is 100% on board…he will have to prove it. I have been dating someone for one month maybe 6 dates. We have been talking each single day of this month but he is so busy during the week because of the job and we don’t text so much during the week, but at least we arrange dates, ask about other’s days and he says me good night/morning. I am getting therapy now and i want the day to come when he doesnt consume my thoughts. I hadn’t been in the dating life since me and my Childrens father stopped talking (which is for 2yrs).He told me it was a slight chance I could be pregnant and yeah I got mad but it was as much as my fault as his. No calls, no messages, deleted me off his social media, I’m hurt. People aren’t definable, relationships aren’t definable. We meet someone, we go head on into “being serious”. As a woman I’ve been told by magazines, reality shows, media that relationships are this or that but the real deal is, humans are too complex to be fit into criteria.We get too caught up in how people are supposed to act and our expectations continually suffer because of it. What is a certainty is that you can always keep being plugged into your own life, at all times. Genuine respect, friendship, emotional connection is important when you first meet someone you might like.Sometimes I didn’t realise men were interested in me and I ghosted them unintentionally when it turned out they were interested, so, I have done the ghosting myself. He began to slither away, but we would always get back together. So, I am making the effort to work on myself, mentally I feel great.
Thing is, everyone talking on this forum about being ghosted has probably done it themselves to others whether you realise it or not!!! It’s not just, “I met the greatest person and I’m so sad they weren’t into me.” Let emotion take a back seat, enjoy your life, take into consideration that you are still a catch, that you too have power (not just the person who decided to leave) and you should weigh up LOGISTICALLY whether they were actually, indeed, right for you. 3 weeks ago when I was in the hospital for a week after suffering my first seizures while at work, my ghost had had enough. I am finally sleeping and feeling rested allows me to make better decisions, I know I didn’t do anything wrong, so it’s his loss.
Until today he has not responded, though I see him always online on Facebook.
He has a habit of responding late or worst not responding at all to my messages and he has his reasons. Been there recently and if i put my logical head on I realise hes got lots of Issues.
And most of the time, they will reason that the girl is probably on the same page so there is no need to reach out.
They tell themselves that she must know this isn’t going to work out and calling and telling her something she already knows would just be silly, so that’s the end of that. If he disappears, it’s because he isn’t the right guy for you.
So think about the people you’ve ghosted and left in your trail of emotional destruction!! I just think you can’t expect too much from people, especially those you have just met, hooked up with a few weeks ago or have known even for a few months. I’ve known a couple of old people who were married for fifty years and they would look at each other and still wonder ‘Who the hell is this person? And it’s not always about the other person and what they’ve done to you. Well, my little ghost and I were ‘perfect’ the first 3 months of our 6 month relationship. his tone towards me was that since he has 3 kids, me being ill, I would be “just one more person to take care of. I am exercising more and getting fresh air, therefore am losing weight and ready to take on the world again.